Marriage can be a big decision, and actress Sarwat Gilani has a piece of practical advice for young people who are trying to figure life out.
Recently, she appeared on the Rukhsat podcast and shared her thoughts on when to get married and what to consider.
Sarwat said, “When it comes to your relationship, you’ve seen growing up, that familiarity will make her realize that she will agree to that marriage or that man if she has seen her mother be there for her father. I would say, please get married in your 30s, not in your 20s in your 20s, you are still very confused, especially in your late 20s because society changes. You need to understand that a lot of things are changing. First, see what values click with you.”
The host Aghlab Shair asked, “How important is it for us to choose our own partner rather than arranged marriages, or do you think arranged marriages are fine?”
“Look, I think it’s a bit of both, to be honest, I mean, I am in a marriage, but I believe in this day and age, marriage is a very failed institution. Because there is so much out there, there is so much variety, there is so much opportunity, and there is easy access.
“So, it all boils down to understanding yourself. It’s a bit of an iffy situation in both. The only difference is in an arranged marriage, the chances are that because you don’t know the person, there is zero expectation, so you build on those expectations living together; you build on those boundaries living together”, Gilani added.
Fahad Mirza and Sarwat Gilani tied the knot on 14 August 2014.
